Dad Deprivation Eroding Modern Society

How ‘dad deprivation’ could be eroding modern society

One of the world’s most respected campaigners on men’s issues believes “dad deprivation” is directly causing what he’s termed “the boy crisis” – and unless society urgently intervenes, we will be in danger of writing off a generation of men.

This Saturday, Warren Farrell – pioneering men’s activist, author of The Myth Of Male Power and a mentor who once coached John Lennon – will give a hugely-anticipated keynote speech at Male Psychology Conference in London.

Dad-deprived boys are less likely to display empathy, be less assertive, depressed, have nightmares, talk back and be disobedientWarren Farrell

Farrell believes modern society is being tangibly eroded by dad deprivation – through increased relationship breakdown, family courts that favour mothers, and fathers denied access to their children after a separation.

He points out that in in every one of the largest 70 developed nations, boys have fallen behind girls, and what they have in common, Farrell says, is divorce. 

“Dad-deprived boys are less likely to display empathy, be less assertive, depressed, have nightmares, talk back and be disobedient,” says Farrell, 72.

“At age nine, girls and boys commit suicide in equal numbers, but boys are twice as likely aged 14, four times more likely aged 15-19, and five times more by age 20-25. This is the time when dads drift out of their lives”.

Some of Farrell’s proposed solutions are radical, such as increasing the numbers of male teachers in schools – by state legislation if necessary.

“We need a major overhaul of education system, especially in inner cities where we know dad deprivation is higher,” he says.

“These boys have no positive male role models. That makes them vulnerable to strong, destructive alpha males like gang leaders or drug dealers.”

“These boys are also most likely to be brought up by mums, then move from a mother-centered home to a woman-centered school.

“Boys need to see males caring at every stage of their lives. So we need more male teachers, period. I’d say equal amounts at least, although, in areas where there are 70 per cent single mothers, why not have 70 per cent male teachers?

“We need to encourage men into the caring sectors, to challenge the cliché that caring work is women’s work”.

Farrell also urges dads not to willingly abandon their children, which he sees as a dereliction of duty.

“Men should not withdraw like cowards,” he says. “To an eight-year-old boy, their dad is God. Backing off or abandoning them leaves the child feeling not important. Dads must fight to be a part of their children’s lives, especially if the mother blocks that”.

Here, Farrell urges separating parents to park their own differences.

Boys need to see males caring at every stage of their lives. So we need more male teachers, period. I’d say equal amounts at least ~ Warren Farrell

“Allowing dads in helps both the boy and the mother, as the child will be easier to manage for her as sole carer,” he says. “Data shows divorced mums are five times more likely to bad mouth dads than dads do mums.

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How Many Children Won’t Be With Dad?

As Father’s Day 2016 approaches, it’s time to take stock of how many children won’t experience the joy of giving their dad a gift and the smile, hug and kiss that follows.

More than 24 million children, 1 in 3, grow up without their biological father. That’s enough children to populate New York City nearly three times.

Perhaps you wonder whether the number is still bleak when considering that so many children today live in blended or adoptive families. It’s still bleak. More than 20 million children, slightly more than 1 in 4, grow up without a biological, step or adoptive father. 

Nevertheless, there is some good news in the battle against father absence as reflected in the chart below.

Percentage of Children Living in Father-Absent Homes: 1960 – 2014stat-chart.jpg

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the percentage of children in the U.S. living without a dad began to soar in 1960. It rose unabated until 1995 when it suddenly hit the skids—sort of. For every five-year period from 1960 to 1995, the percentage rose. Since then, it has fallen and risen like clockwork. The result is a hold-steady pattern of 27.5 percent.

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JUSTICE4CHILDREN ~ Human Rights, Justice, Civil Rights.

Fatherless Father’s Day ~ A fight for equal parental rights

The couple sent a letter to President Barack Obama on Aug. 12, 2011, detailing 23 adjustments they wanted for CPS. Some requests included ending bonuses paid to each CPS worker for a child … 

Last testament of a loving father abused by the family court system and alienated from his children

Originally posted on Women for Men: This August our 11-year-old son will begin the sixth grade at Chaminade Preparatory School in St. Louis, MO. It is an all boys Catholic schoolChris Mack… 

Whores of the Court

Judges merely redirect the dysfunction of one parent as a means to achieve an equitable settlement without regard for children. Related articles

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Over the years I have been most inspired by the work of Omar and David Inguanzo from their group Children’s Rightsand would call o all like mined folk to join us and make the breakthrough 3000th memberby this Easter! I am also honoured to be regarded as a cause leader within the group.
 
 
 
Along with other campaigners such as Donald Tenn, David Carlin, Anthony Lemons, Second Class Citizen .org and many more who know the massive challenges that still lie ahead through out the USA. Here in the UK there seems a modest groundswell towards reform and feel I would like to see this hope extended to other associated fighting for justicein Family Courts and reforming child welfare organisations to start acting as they are expected to !
 
 
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The Family Courts in the United States are Biased Against Fathers.

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Alabama‘s 2nd annual Fatherless Day Rally June 17th at 9AM 600 Dexter Ave Montgomery Al, 36130 Come out as we rally together and bring awareness to the bias system. We will also be handing out red balloons that we will release at 12 noon with a letter to each of our children. If you are unable to attend please release a red balloon at Noon central time with a note to your child and write on the balloon one of the below please. The Fathers Rights Movement, The Alabama Fathers Rights Movement, TFRM, TFRM AL, #fathersrightsmovement, #tfrm. Also don’t forget to purchase a Fathers Rights Movement shirt from inktothepeople.com and search The Fathers Rights Movement purchase your shirt to wear it in support. This is what we need to bring to light. Children love and deserve both loving parents. Statistically, it appears that the family courts in the United States are biased against fathers. For example, 83% of mothers receive custody of their children in divorces. Additionally, men are awarded less support on average than mothers who are awarded support. There is also plenty of anecdotal evidence citing situations where mothers were awarded custody in spite of fathers demonstrating interest and potential to provide and care for their children.ALABAMA

Across the street from Nesbett Courthouse 825 W 4th Ave, Anchorage, AK 99501 — Members, both men & women, are primarily interested in issues related to family law and child custody

ALASKA 

Parents, Grandparents, Step-Parents, Aunts, Uncles & Family of Alienated children. Join your fellow Parent June 17th By placing your work boots or shoes on the Capital stairs to represent the Alienation going on in your family due to the court system. Please invite anyone you know going through custody battle or any form of Alienation Thanks to the Fathers Rights Movement “Colorado” We need you NOW more then ever ~ The Champ PHILLY SLIIMM thanks for your support #NoExcuses 

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Let’s join together and improve the system, and do what is in the best interests of the child. If you want to help children, then this is where you should be. We will be on the south side of the Capitol Building in Sacramento (actually on N Street). Lots of shade, live speakers, and live music. Bring your friends!

CALIFORNIA

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CONNECTICUT

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Get your voices heard. Fatherless day is June 17th. We don’t need the courts to tell us when it’s time to be a parent!

FLORIDA

On June 17, 2016, We will be holding a rally at both 12th Circuit Courthouses Manatee Judicial Center 1051 Manatee Ave W, Bradenton, FL 34205 and 12th Circuit Courthouse Sarasota Lynn N. Silvertooth Judicial Center 2002 Ringling Boulevard Sarasota, Florida 34237 Event will be from 10am-2pm email for more information or to help-whydadsmatter@yahoo.com We are calling on all fathers to place a pair of work boots or shoes on the steps of the Family Court house.

This is to represent how many fathers have been reduced to a paycheck and are hot allowed to be present in their children’s lives. Inside your shoes/boots place a letter telling your story. Children need both parents. We need 50/50 Shared Parenting. We are Fathers! We are not visitors. We are not a paycheck. Make your statement heard. Make Flyers, banners, posters, signs and bring your friends. to support you and your children.

Today I know many fatherless children, and none are without a fantasy — there is a father on Father’s Day, if only in their fictions, we must take a stance This event will be covered by the press and parts being recorded will be used in an upcoming Documentary In 2015 that I address Parental rights and the destruction of our children and families to our elected officials.

In 2016 …I will continue my mission by speaking at even more engagements with our elected officials “The activist is not the man who says the river is dirty. The activist is the man who cleans up the river.” — Ross Perot https://youtu.be/4LInxoSJN9E Miami Task force hearing http://whydadsmatter.com/…/flflorida-supreme-court-task-fo…/

More than 100 supporters for the alimony Reform Bill converge on Tallahassee April 12, 2016 to present to Rick Scott’s office our concerns and protesting with the chant Sign the Bill sSign the Bill. Why Dads Matter and other support groups showed up as well. Governor Rick Scott has one week to sign, veto or do nothing then becomes law. https://youtu.be/Igz9wX-ghN8 An honor to be recognized by the Sarasota County County Commissioners for our efforts to expose Parental Alienation in the 12th Judicial Courts and throughout the State. 22 million are affected by this injustice. Why Dads Matter and Danica Jones with Kids Need Both hope to make a difference for generations to come Whydadsmatter.com & Kidsneedboth.org https://youtu.be/bO5Wz-N5PLU Published on Mar 14, 2016 TED TALK

Parental alienation is a devastating problem affecting millions of families around the world. Unfortunately, much like how we addressed domestic violence several decades ago, we treat parental alienation as a domestic issue rather than as a problem that affects communities, school systems, police and court systems, mental health and financial institutions, and legislative bodies. I will discuss how our social and cultural systems sanction and even promote parental alienation at the expense of our children, and what can be done about it.

Dr. Harman is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Colorado State University and is the Program Coordinator for the Applied Social & Health Psychology Program. She is an accomplished and awarded teacher, and has published many peer-reviewed articles and textbooks on intimate relationships, such as The Science of Relationships: Answers to your Questions about Dating, Marriage and Family. She is also a contributor to ScienceofRelationships.com, a relationship science resource for the on-line community, and is interviewed as a relationship expert for many national and international media outlets (Chicago Tribune, the Denver Post, NY Magazine, datingadvice.com, and the Irish Independent). She has more recently applied her research expertise in social psychology to better understand and find solutions for parental alienation because she has been a target of it herself. https://youtu.be/v3YdldNXZnQ

We need YOU. It is urgent that you get involved and email Governor Scott in Florida each day to tell him to Sign Alimony Bill SB 668. After passing the Senate and the House the Bill is in Jeopardy of a VETO. Change in any State Helps ALL states. Please Help us. Include in your email that “a premise = a starting point and a presumption = an ending point: Judges have full discretion”. Send as many as you can and recruit everyone to this cause. This week is the push week. If we do not top 10,000 a day we will not get his attention. Rick.Scott@eog.myflorida.com. 850-488-7146

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On June 17, 2016, We will be holding a rally at both 12th Circuit Courthouses Manatee Judicial Center 1051 Manatee Ave W, Bradenton, FL 34205 and 12th Circuit Courthouse Sarasota Lynn N. Silvertooth Judicial Center 2002 Ringling Boulevard Sarasota, Florida 34237 

ILLINOIS

Event outside State Capitol to remind society that there are thousands of children that are not allowed to see their fathers and that there are fit fathers being excluded from their child’s lives

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We will be gathering in Downtown Indianapolis to show our solidarity in support of children’s rights to have two loving and fit parents in their lives and to bring awareness to the damage that parental alienation causes. Please join us!

Heartbreaking and unacceptable…1 out of 3 children live without biological dad and it’s not do from abandonment but a system that profits from removing children from parents lives… What is a fundamental human right- having equal access to both parents… Has become a fundamentally flawed system- the $50 billion dollar family law industry- systematically removing children from parents lives… Attend a Fathers Day Rally in your state. Your voice matters!!! ~JT  – KANSAS

Heartbreaking and unacceptable…1 out of 3 children live without biological dad and it’s not do from abandonment but a system that profits from removing children from parents lives… What is a fundamental human right- having equal access to both parents… Has become a fundamentally flawed system- the $50 billion dollar family law industry- systematically removing children from parents lives… Attend a Fathers Day Rally in your state. Your voice matters!!! ~JT

We will gather to peacefully protest the unequal parenting laws in this state. — Sedgwick County Courthouse  – MARYLAND

Come & stand with us and be counted for this human rights issue that destroys the very fabric of our society...Families. The family law industry is profiting from the bias treatment of parents nationwide. A fatherless society is much more likely to be from this rather than the 'deadbeat dad" myth they want us all to keep believing. This corrupt multi billion dollar system uses people and creates negative issues for children & families. It effects us all, whether or not you even have children. The damage done is widespread and can be linked to just about every major negative social issue of our time. It's epidemically proportioned to be a core reason for what's wrong today with our country and worldwide. Enough is enough of this oppressive, intrusive assault on our families and Constitutional rights as citizens and parents. This scam has got to stop now. So show up now and help be involved with being a part of the solution instead of leaving it up to others... like your children. We can't leave this for future generations of children to have live with too... Change is now. It's our responsibility to do this for them. - We'll see you there standing for what is right. Thank you!
Come & stand with us and be counted for this human rights issue that destroys the very fabric of our society…Families. The family law industry is profiting from the bias treatment of parents nationwide. A fatherless society is much more likely to be from this rather than the ‘deadbeat dad” myth they want us all to keep believing. This corrupt multi billion dollar system uses people and creates negative issues for children & families. It effects us all, whether or not you even have children. The damage done is widespread and can be linked to just about every major negative social issue of our time. It’s epidemically proportioned to be a core reason for what’s wrong today with our country and worldwide. Enough is enough of this oppressive, intrusive assault on our families and Constitutional rights as citizens and parents. This scam has got to stop now. So show up now and help be involved with being a part of the solution instead of leaving it up to others… like your children. We can’t leave this for future generations of children to have live with too… Change is now. It’s our responsibility to do this for them. – We’ll see you there standing for what is right. Thank you!

MASSACHUSETTS 

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Join us at the site of the “Shot heard round the world”, for the “Shout heard round the world” Fatherless Day Rally. Come out and support equal parenting, and let our voices be heard by all!

MICHIGAN

On Fathers Day 2016 many parents will go without seeing their children as they have in past years. Either because of unjust denials, or because of an unfair, unjust and highly unconstitutional Family Court System that is currently in place. A court system built on tearing families apart calling it "Best Interest for the Child" more like best interest for Courts, FOC , CPS, and DHS. As it is a profitable business for them. This is just not limited to fathers, as many mothers suffer at the hands of family court and the practices they use as well. We are in this together. So I ask that you stand against this fatherless society brought on by same court and agencies that scream "Best Interest". This is a fact that can be prevented by just simply standing up and taking a chance at fighting for something worth fighting for. Our children need us to be their voice so they can be heard. Do you think a scorned mother or father will voice their child's opinion if its to see their other parent, Of course not or we wouldn't be fighting for our children in the first place. Do you think the courts will change without people demanding change? Doubt it, it has only gotten worse and more corrupt. No longer can we be idle and silent. We must rise up and demand that our children's rights be recognized. Remind them that the role of each parent is equal. With no strings attached Shared equal parenting time with both parents is imperative to the healthy mental, physical, and emotional development of our children. Our children deserve to be heard, they deserve to have a voice, they deserve a choice. Let's help them with that. Let's ban together and march on the Michigan State Capital and stress the need for family court reform. WE WILL be heard and THEY WILL listen. The more we gather the louder we will get, so share this event and let's gather everyone together and become one united voice. A voice to be heard across the nation, and start a new trend. A trend of equal parenting rights. I hope that you can join us on June 16th, 2016 on the steps of the Capital Building for a peaceful gathering of concerned parents and parent supporters. That demand equal rights to our children. Please share this with everyone in you friends list and encourage them to to share as well. For this matter is so very important to our children and their lives they still have ahead of them. Let's help make it great. Thank you and God Bless
On Fathers Day 2016 many parents will go without seeing their children as they have in past years. Either because of unjust denials, or because of an unfair, unjust and highly unconstitutional Family Court System that is currently in place. A court system built on tearing families apart calling it “Best Interest for the Child” more like best interest for Courts, FOC , CPS, and DHS. As it is a profitable business for them. This is just not limited to fathers, as many mothers suffer at the hands of family court and the practices they use as well. We are in this together. So I ask that you stand against this fatherless society brought on by same court and agencies that scream “Best Interest”. This is a fact that can be prevented by just simply standing up and taking a chance at fighting for something worth fighting for. Our children need us to be their voice so they can be heard. Do you think a scorned mother or father will voice their child’s opinion if its to see their other parent, Of course not or we wouldn’t be fighting for our children in the first place. Do you think the courts will change without people demanding change? Doubt it, it has only gotten worse and more corrupt. No longer can we be idle and silent. We must rise up and demand that our children’s rights be recognized. Remind them that the role of each parent is equal. With no strings attached Shared equal parenting time with both parents is imperative to the healthy mental, physical, and emotional development of our children. Our children deserve to be heard, they deserve to have a voice, they deserve a choice. Let’s help them with that. Let’s ban together and march on the Michigan State Capital and stress the need for family court reform. WE WILL be heard and THEY WILL listen. The more we gather the louder we will get, so share this event and let’s gather everyone together and become one united voice. A voice to be heard across the nation, and start a new trend. A trend of equal parenting rights. I hope that you can join us on June 16th, 2016 on the steps of the Capital Building for a peaceful gathering of concerned parents and parent supporters. That demand equal rights to our children. Please share this with everyone in you friends list and encourage them to to share as well. For this matter is so very important to our children and their lives they still have ahead of them. Let’s help make it great. Thank you and God Bless

MONTANA

STOP THE WAR ON DADS! Many individuals, from many organizations, will descend upon the Missouri Capitol on this day. This is an annual rally and the greatest opportunity for face-to-face networking with individuals within our movement. Please spend the day with us and become oriented with your Capitol. An outdoor rally will take place from 9am until noon. You can make and bring signs for the entire event. Please make sure they are made for all-age, public viewing. We will then move indoors at noon, to the Capitol Rotunda, to take the stage. This is where your story can be heard. Members of the Missouri General Assembly, other special guests and our volunteer staff will be present. We’d like to share stories and personally get to know more about your individual experiences as we continue to grow as an organization and a coalition for Family Law reform. Please remember to bring food and drinks for yourselves while at the Capitol. Chairs will be provided inside the Capitol Rotunda only. Message us with any questions and/or concerns. We hope to see you there! ~jrMO

NEVADA

Let’s join together and improve the system, and do what is in the best interests of the child. If you want to help children, then this is where you should be. Bring your friends! **Looking to get confirmed Attendance by June 8th or the event will be cancelled. Please contact Our State Lead of Nevada by Sending us a Message

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Come & stand with us and be counted for this human rights issue that destroys the very fabric of our society…Families. The family law industry is profiting from the bias treatment of parents nationwide. A fatherless society is much more likely to be from this rather than the ‘deadbeat dad” myth they want us all to keep believing. This corrupt multi billion dollar system uses people and creates negative issues for children & families. It effects us all, whether or not you even have children. The damage done is widespread and can be linked to just about every major negative social issue of our time. It’s epidemically proportioned to be a core reason for what’s wrong today with our country and worldwide. Enough is enough of this oppressive, intrusive assault on our families and Constitutional rights as citizens and parents. This scam has got to stop now. So show up now and help be involved with being a part of the solution instead of leaving it up to others… like your children. We can’t leave this for future generations of children to have live with too… Change is now. It’s our responsibility to do this for them. – We’ll see you there standing for what is right. Thank you! ~ Mike Whitney TFRM Click here to go to the event page: https://www.facebook.com/events/497630757091150/?active_tab=posts  – NEW YORK

NORTH CAROLINA

Yesterday I sent out a Meeting request to EVERY legislator in NC for the day of our rally. The meeting request responses are starting to trickle in. I will post the responses below in the comment section as we get them, as well as the meeting times. Please, All of you who can make it to the Rally, this is the First time we have held the rally while the Legislature is in session. We need a good crowd to show up so we can show them how important legislative change is to the voters of NC. Also, I will be inviting some of you to come and speak with the legislators to tell them your story, and if you can’t make it, please type your story up and send it to us. I will try to print out copies of your stories in your own words to pass out to the legislators. Thanks, Dustin~

OHIO

If you are appalled by the Ohio Court Corruption and the Alienation that is occurring then come join us for the Ohio Rally. This is for everyone and all groups to join and unite with us to have a voice and a choice. We will have guest speakers, Radio Airing, Reporters, and free material as to where all the Rallies are in Ohio this year and how to get involved!! Sponsored by The Ohio Family Rights Movement.

OKLAHOMA

We are hosting the annual TFRM Fatherless Day Rally to spread knowledge to our state officials and the general public about issues in our family court systems. Please come show your support for presumptive 50/50 custody for two, fit loving parents. This is a free, family-friendly event. We encourage everyone to make an appearance or stay with us the entire time. We also encourage you to invite friends, family, loved ones, co-workers, etc. to attend with you. There is strength in numbers. This is our time to let our voices be heard!
We are hosting the annual TFRM Fatherless Day Rally to spread knowledge to our state officials and the general public about issues in our family court systems. Please come show your support for presumptive 50/50 custody for two, fit loving parents. This is a free, family-friendly event. We encourage everyone to make an appearance or stay with us the entire time. We also encourage you to invite friends, family, loved ones, co-workers, etc. to attend with you. There is strength in numbers. This is our time to let our voices be heard!

Fathers that care and extended family members are marginalized in divorce and separations in family court and in the lives of their children. The rights of our children to have equal access to both parents is also infringed upon. Now our voice will be heard. Change is coming. Stand up for yours and your children’s Constitutional and God given rights. Come stand in solidarity with us in support of Family Law Reform and Equal Parenting Rights. Bring family, friends, neighbors and co-workers. Share your stories. This is your chance to let Texas and the Nation know that enough is enough with these antiquated laws and we are on the right side of morality. Lets make history! South steps of the Texas State Capital. Visitor parking on 12th and San Jacinto– 2 blocks away.  – TEXAS

VIRGINIA

In VA the standard court order includes every other weekend with one parent, normally named the non-custodial parent. The standard order does not include holidays, and even in cases where holidays are exchanged occasionally one parent is left without major holidays with their children (Such as Christmas, birthdays, etc). The non-custodial parent, normally a Father, is named a visitor in their children's lives and restricted to 25 to 30% of yearly time with their child and then ordered to pay child support, often paying about 60% of their monthly income. Our goal is for every fit and loving parent,regardless of their gender, to be able to receive a standard court order of EQUAL custody, 50% time sharing and 50% decision making. In a world meant for equality, we still do not have equality for parents. In a census study from 1993-2014, out of 15,000 custodial parents, only less than 3,000 per year ended up being custodial Fathers. Where is the equality? Where is it stated that one gender is a better parent than the other? Why are our children suffering because the courts refuse equal time sharing? Why should the courts or a judge have the ability to pick one parent over the other, rather than have both parents equally parent the child, much like they did when conceiving the child? Will you stand up? Will you join us? Fathers, Mothers, Stepparents, Grandparents, siblings, children, Aunts, Uncles, anyone is welcome. Stand up for your children today, in case a judge refuses your right to see them tomorrow. www.facebook.com/events/1567598063558195/
In VA the standard court order includes every other weekend with one parent, normally named the non-custodial parent. The standard order does not include holidays, and even in cases where holidays are exchanged occasionally one parent is left without major holidays with their children (Such as Christmas, birthdays, etc). The non-custodial parent, normally a Father, is named a visitor in their children’s lives and restricted to 25 to 30% of yearly time with their child and then ordered to pay child support, often paying about 60% of their monthly income. Our goal is for every fit and loving parent,regardless of their gender, to be able to receive a standard court order of EQUAL custody, 50% time sharing and 50% decision making. In a world meant for equality, we still do not have equality for parents. In a census study from 1993-2014, out of 15,000 custodial parents, only less than 3,000 per year ended up being custodial Fathers. Where is the equality? Where is it stated that one gender is a better parent than the other? Why are our children suffering because the courts refuse equal time sharing? Why should the courts or a judge have the ability to pick one parent over the other, rather than have both parents equally parent the child, much like they did when conceiving the child? Will you stand up? Will you join us? Fathers, Mothers, Stepparents, Grandparents, siblings, children, Aunts, Uncles, anyone is welcome. Stand up for your children today, in case a judge refuses your right to see them tomorrow. http://www.facebook.com/events/1567598063558195/

WASHINGTON

On June 17, 2016, we will be holding a rally at the Capitol. We are calling on all fathers to place a pair of work boots or shoes on the steps of the office of their State Representative or Family Courthouse or both. This is to represent how many fathers have been reduced to a paycheck but are not allowed to be present in their children’s lives. Inside your shoes/boots place a letter telling your story. Children need both parents. We need 50/50 shared parenting. We are Fathers! We are not visitors. We are not paycheck. Make your statement heard. Make flyers, banners, posters, sign and bring your friends to support you and your children. Share and attend. #fathersrightsmovement

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WISCONSIN

Join us Father’s day to promote awareness of the injustices in family court that fathers face. This rally is promoting 50-50 default placement, and equality. We are a cause united by circumstance and standing in solidarity to change current family law biases and demand a system based simply in equality. We fight for our kids. Come join us Father’s Day!

We are calling on all Fathers to place a pair of work boots or shoes on the steps of the Laramie County Courthouse. If you are unable to attend the rally please send us your story and we will place a pair of boots/shoes on your behalf. This is to represent how many fathers have been reduced to a paycheck, but are not allowed to be present in their children’s lives. Place a letter inside of your shoes/boots telling your story. Children need both parents. We need 50/50 shared parenting. We are Fathers! We are not visitors! We are not a paycheck! Make your statement heard. Make flyers, banners, posters, signs, and bring your friends and family to support you and your children. Join us on the north sidewalk of the Courthouse. Refreshments will be provided. Dress appropriately for the weather and bring sunscreen.  – WYOMING

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States with events in planning: New Hampshire, Vermont

I am a family law attorney…
and I have seen first-hand the kind of unfairness that you are complaining about and I know that you are making a very legitimate point.

Every time I sit and observe for even an hour or so in family court, I come out wondering what foreign country have I wandered into. Fathers are on the bad end of some peculiar social forces and norms at this point in our culture and even understanding that it is cultural and social — and not personal — does not make it more bearable for those who are affected. I am not going to cheerlead, or defend the system. It’s wrong and it goes on and on and on.

So, what to do?

Join forces. There is an active “Fathers’ Equal Rights” community that has only started to explore its potential for political and social influence.

One voice is a rant; many voices is public policy. All judges are ultimately accountable to the public, even those that forget that is so.

Here is contact info for local state advocates in your area, support and work with them for change.

You can begin by attending your the TFRM Rally this June 17th at your State Capitol.

There simply isn’t any other or better alternative.

Find the link to your local state rally below.

You can also go to the address printed on the meme below to see if any of our current open volunteer positions interest you.

Sincerely,

Kenneth Goins

Source: American Fathers Liberation

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Your Raising a Human Being NOT an Inconvenience

Parental Alienation deprives children of their right to be loved by and showing love for both of their parents!!

If a father withholds the access of a mother to her children, he can be arrested and charged with Child abduction and Kidnap. When a mother does the same against the father of the children, there are NO laws to stop her from doing this. As a result, many good fathers suffer depression, anxiety and emotional stress that can lead to loss of work, self harming and even suicide. In short, it has a devastating effect on us all.

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Children NEED and deserve to have BOTH parents in their lives, the balance needs to be equal. Fathers should not be punished and branded and made to feel inadequate because a relationship with their former partner has deteriorated.

We are honest fathers, not drunks, drug users, nor ‘deadbeat’. All we want is to share in the upbringing of our children, be part of their lives, and have it enforced when our children are held against us as if for ransom.December 24 letter from Greenberg - Nixa Rose

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Dearest Daughter,

I love you so much. 

Yesterday I gazed out the window watching fireworks and was really missing my angel but I cannot call her because I am scared of mom’s false allegations and lies, she  doesn’t call me and knowing she is only a couple of mile away hurts like hell.

Please know that daddy, your brother, your grandparents, your cousins, aunts and uncles; your whole family loves you and misses you very much.

I tried to get to see you but your mom told the Judge, in family court on April 24th, 2013, that “it’s too inconvenient for her to take you to visit with me”.
I love you!

What can be worse than that?

In 2013, Judge Manno-Schurr agreed with mom. In my opinion this is Parental Alienation by Mom facilitated by the Family Court.Judge granted Mom’s Motion to Strike the Amicus Brief filed by Dad that explains to the…

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Positive ambassadors for involved fatherhood, at-home dads need to resist the urge to take offense and instead use these thoughtless comments as “teaching moments.” In this way, they can be more effective and positive as they change the out-of-date attitudes of those around them. I came up with a phrase for this very purpose:

“Almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad”

As in:
“I loved that movie from 1983, too (“Mr. Mom”), but that’s not what most dads or at-home dads do today. In fact, almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad.“

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“I know you mean no offense, but I don’t babysit my kids, I’m just being their father. And, you know, almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad.”

“Almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad. I just happen to do it full-time, as it made more sense for my family that my wife works. All families should arrange things the best way for them, don’t you think?”

“I’m here with my kids. More and more dads are doing things like this. After all, almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad. Which are your kids, maybe they can join mine on the monkey bars?”

“I know you mean that (“great dad”) as a compliment, and thank you. But, you know, almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad. I’m not doing anything more than most dads- or moms- do.”

Progress can come one conversation at a time.

I’m very confident that the awesome guys I met at the convention will more than do their part. Honestly, I’m not sure I could restrain the urge to say something rude if faced with such thoughtless comments. But rising above thoughtlessness is the key to being a positive ambassador.

The dads at this convention seemed to like the phrase and, in fact, a few told me they used some variant of it during their flights back home when fellow passengers saw them wearing their “At-Home Dad Convention” and “Dads Don’t Babysit” t-shirts.

My experience at this convention also led me to think about working dads, and what we can do to be ambassadors of involved fatherhood at our workplaces. Here are a few ideas:

Talk about family while at work and make it easier for others in your sphere of influence to do so. For instance, ask them about what they did with their families on weekends, or have family pictures prominently displayed at your workstation.

Gather a group of fellow working dads and go out to lunch or a happy-hour together every few weeks. Combine this with a mom’s group if you’d like.
When you need to, leave early and take work home. Don’t apologize for it. Your continued work performance will win over initial skeptics.

Ask management and HR about what policies they offer. Share with them the news of what leading companies offer.

Take paternity leave when it’s offered. Be visible about it. Share your experiences on social media.

Especially if you are a manager, you play an especially important role. If your employees see you adjust your schedule for family, occasionally work from home, and even take paternity leave, you send a strong signal that it is ok for others to do so. Your actions speak much louder than your words.

Push the need for leave and flexibility policies with HR and top management. Make the business case in terms of attracting and retaining employees, as well as improving engagement.

Beyond paternity leave or workplace flexibility, talk with your employees, coworkers and bosses about the importance of time for life.

After all, almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad.

Whether we work outside the home or have made parenting our full-time job, we need to be ambassadors for involved fatherhood. That’s how society and workplaces will finally catch on to what most of us do every day.

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Changing the outcome of your family court case!

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Dear Friend and Fellow Advocate,

Thanks for visiting our site! Like most individuals you have probably come to our site for one primary reason. You are looking for answers to a specific Fathers rights family law problem. Let me assure you that you’ve come to the right place. We have the answers you need!Image result for WHY MEN LOSE IN FAMILY COURT

The subject of this article is “Why Do Men Lose In Family Court?” I have spent the last 23 years attempting to answer this question. After considerable research, case evaluations and client interviews I believe I now have the answer.

 

Twenty three years ago I went through a brutal divorce. Actually, at the time of divorce we were very friendly with one another and agreed to settle out of court. My Ex-wife, through a paralegal filed for divorce and like most men I simply agreed to the terms. I walked away with nothing! I surrendered the house, ($40,000.00 in equity) the boat, the car, furniture etc. etc…Everything I had acquired in 13 years of marriage was suddenly gone. We had three children and I wanted them to have the benefit of these items. Although I didn’t realize it at the time I could have and should have made better agreements that would have benefited all members of my family in a much greater way.
Looking back I simply didn’t know what a good agreement was or how to make the deal. I was so concerned about maintaining a good relationship with my ex that I avoided anything that might have resulted in a legal battle. I should have filed my response with the court and requested an equitable division of property, custody, visitation and a support order that was based on my Real income. In general I should have been more attentive to the legal issues. This was truly a mistake!
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