If you think Juan Mendez is a complete fool, moron and just unfit to hold public office your not the only one!
In fact, according to the American’s for Parental Equality and men’s rights advocates, you could be right!
Many men’s and father’s rights activist have long held the opinion that Juan Mendez has single-handedly worked against legislation to change bias family court laws. This opinion appears to be true in recent public statements Juan Mendez has made.
Juan Mendez was recently asked,
“What do you plan to do to bring equality to fathers being denied rights to their children in family court when there is no domestic violence or criminal history?”
Juan Mendez looked a little shocked by the question and even asked for it to be repeated so he could compose himself. Then, the idiot (in our opinion) spilled his feminist guts.
At least from his statements…
Mendez openly plans to keep denying father’s rights to their biological children.
A Facebook video of this moron has now reached 34 thousand views of how Mendez side-stepped the entire question while throwing a bone to his liberal-feminist allies.
The only clear choice for the voters of LD26 is to vote for Cara Nicole to unseat Juan Mendez. Cara has spent some time fighting for equal rights for fathers. She knows of the struggles fathers face in divorce and child support cases and firmly backs equal rights.
We need to support Cara Nicole in this year’s November election and remove Juan Mendez from political office once and for all!
Here we are starting another year in the same position as last year and the year before that and the year before that. Three years now since I saw my two children and three more to go if the situation remains the same. My son Scott will be sixteen in three years time and he will instantly have the freedom to choose to find me. Which is why I keep my blog running. I have said this over and over again during the last three years, all we want is equality. Not too much to ask in 2014. A fathers right to see his children and a child’s right to see his or her father. Men are often accused of being controlling, but when a mother denies a father access to his children and a child access to his or father then that is the extreme of controlling behavior. But that seems to go unrecognised. Balanced? I don’t think so. Fair? I don’t think so. Equal? I don’t think so. Children are not tools to be used as a punishment against a father.
Here we are starting another year in the same position as last year and the year before that and the year before that. Three years now since I saw my two children and three more to go if the situation remains the same. My son Scott will be sixteen in three years time and he will instantly have the freedom to choose to find me. Which is why I keep my blog running. I have said this over and over again during the last three years, all we want is equality. Not too much to ask in 2014. A fathers right to see his children and a child’s right to see his or her father. Men are often accused of being controlling, but when a mother denies a father access to his children and a child access to his or father then that is the extreme of controlling behavior. But that seems to go unrecognised. Balanced? I don’t think so. Fair? I don’t think so. Equal? I don’t think so. Children are not tools to be used as a punishment against a father.
Here we are starting another year in the same position as last year and the year before that and the year before that. Three years now since I saw my two children and three more to go if the situation remains the same. My son Scott will be sixteen in three years time and he will instantly have the freedom to choose to find me. Which is why I keep my blog running. I have said this over and over again during the last three years, all we want is equality. Not too much to ask in 2014. A fathers right to see his children and a child’s right to see his or her father. Men are often accused of being controlling, but when a mother denies a father access to his children and a child access to his or father then that is the extreme of controlling behavior. But that seems to go unrecognised. Balanced? I don’t think so. Fair? I don’t think so. Equal? I don’t think so. Children are not tools to be used as a punishment against a father.
Exactly five years after an oppressed father protested discrimination by burning himself alive on the steps of Keene County Family Court, four victimized fathers calmly walked up the steps of the United States Supreme Court to file a writ for parental equality.
Media throughout the beltway were discussing it, news releases were confirmed everywhere, and these four made history outside the halls of our nation’s highest court. And it’s high time. Give dads their due. We sacrifice in the line of duty every day for our children.
Whether it be law enforcement in Orlando, firemen headed into the towers on 9-11, or our military in foreign wars, we are sick and tired of the abuses inflicted upon us in divorce and family courts. We are tired of returning to anything but “equal justice” as promised on the top of the Supreme Court edifice.
These four professionals, a doctor, lawyer, dentist and engineer made their case at a news conference on the eve of Fathers Day. They are Dr. Mario Jimenez, M.D., Dr. Leon Koziol, J.D., Dr. Dan Pestana, DDS and John Bautista, BSME, MBA, sacrificing their professional standings by taking up this cause. They need your help.
Yes it’s Fathers Day again with those worn out stereotypes about manning up. And that’s exactly what these professionals did from New York, California, Florida and Virginia. They asked our government to man up to its responsibilities for equal rights. Being born male does not give our courts a power to denigrate our authority as equal parents under supreme laws.
While other traditionally discriminated groups have made great strides in achieving reform, fathers continue to be remanded by our courts to lower class parent status with all the oppression which comes with it. Fathers remain 85% of all parents paying support, nearly 100% of those sent to a debtor prison for delinquencies and even shot dead in the back by a traffic cop while fleeing unarmed from a support warrant (Walter Scott).
Coined in 1985 by psychiatrist Richard Gardner, PAS describes a set of behaviors exhibited by kids whose parents deliberately turn them against the other parent, through a variety of techniques that are at once coercive, manipulative, vindictive and sociopathic.
“It’s a violent act to a child’s mind,”
Jason Patric tells Newsweek, speaking of PAS, which he says he began investigating following his initial trial to assert his parental rights with Gus. He believes parental alienation is akin to what domestic violence was 40 years ago—a dirty secret that is harming millions but not acknowledged by many mental health professionals.
Alabama‘s 2nd annual Fatherless Day Rally June 17th at 9AM 600 Dexter Ave Montgomery Al, 36130 Come out as we rally together and bring awareness to the bias system. We will also be handing out red balloons that we will release at 12 noon with a letter to each of our children. If you are unable to attend please release a red balloon at Noon central time with a note to your child and write on the balloon one of the below please. The Fathers Rights Movement, The Alabama Fathers Rights Movement, TFRM, TFRM AL, #fathersrightsmovement, #tfrm. Also don’t forget to purchase a Fathers Rights Movement shirt from inktothepeople.com and search The Fathers Rights Movement purchase your shirt to wear it in support. This is what we need to bring to light. Children love and deserve both loving parents. Statistically, it appears that the family courts in the United States are biased against fathers. For example, 83% of mothers receive custody of their children in divorces. Additionally, men are awarded less support on average than mothers who are awarded support. There is also plenty of anecdotal evidence citing situations where mothers were awarded custody in spite of fathers demonstrating interest and potential to provide and care for their children.– ALABAMA
Across the street from Nesbett Courthouse 825 W 4th Ave, Anchorage, AK 99501 — Members, both men & women, are primarily interested in issues related to family law and child custody.
Parents, Grandparents, Step-Parents, Aunts, Uncles & Family of Alienated children. Join your fellow Parent June 17th By placing your work boots or shoes on the Capital stairs to represent the Alienation going on in your family due to the court system. Please invite anyone you know going through custody battle or any form of Alienation Thanks to the Fathers Rights Movement “Colorado” We need you NOW more then ever ~ The Champ PHILLY SLIIMM thanks for your support #NoExcuses
Let’s join together and improve the system, and do what is in the best interests of the child. If you want to help children, then this is where you should be. We will be on the south side of the Capitol Building in Sacramento (actually on N Street). Lots of shade, live speakers, and live music. Bring your friends!
On June 17, 2016, We will be holding a rally at both 12th Circuit Courthouses Manatee Judicial Center 1051 Manatee Ave W, Bradenton, FL 34205 and 12th Circuit Courthouse Sarasota Lynn N. Silvertooth Judicial Center 2002 Ringling Boulevard Sarasota, Florida 34237 Event will be from 10am-2pm email for more information or to help-whydadsmatter@yahoo.com We are calling on all fathers to place a pair of work boots or shoes on the steps of the Family Court house.
This is to represent how many fathers have been reduced to a paycheck and are hot allowed to be present in their children’s lives. Inside your shoes/boots place a letter telling your story. Children need both parents. We need 50/50 Shared Parenting. We are Fathers! We are not visitors. We are not a paycheck. Make your statement heard. Make Flyers, banners, posters, signs and bring your friends. to support you and your children.
Today I know many fatherless children, and none are without a fantasy — there is a father on Father’s Day, if only in their fictions, we must take a stance This event will be covered by the press and parts being recorded will be used in an upcoming Documentary In 2015 that I address Parental rights and the destruction of our children and families to our elected officials.
More than 100 supporters for the alimony Reform Bill converge on Tallahassee April 12, 2016 to present to Rick Scott’s office our concerns and protesting with the chant Sign the Bill sSign the Bill. Why Dads Matter and other support groups showed up as well. Governor Rick Scott has one week to sign, veto or do nothing then becomes law. https://youtu.be/Igz9wX-ghN8 An honor to be recognized by the Sarasota County County Commissioners for our efforts to expose Parental Alienation in the 12th Judicial Courts and throughout the State. 22 million are affected by this injustice. Why Dads Matter and Danica Jones with Kids Need Both hope to make a difference for generations to come Whydadsmatter.com & Kidsneedboth.org https://youtu.be/bO5Wz-N5PLU Published on Mar 14, 2016 TED TALK
Parental alienation is a devastating problem affecting millions of families around the world. Unfortunately, much like how we addressed domestic violence several decades ago, we treat parental alienation as a domestic issue rather than as a problem that affects communities, school systems, police and court systems, mental health and financial institutions, and legislative bodies. I will discuss how our social and cultural systems sanction and even promote parental alienation at the expense of our children, and what can be done about it.
Dr. Harman is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Colorado State University and is the Program Coordinator for the Applied Social & Health Psychology Program. She is an accomplished and awarded teacher, and has published many peer-reviewed articles and textbooks on intimate relationships, such as The Science of Relationships: Answers to your Questions about Dating, Marriage and Family. She is also a contributor to ScienceofRelationships.com, a relationship science resource for the on-line community, and is interviewed as a relationship expert for many national and international media outlets (Chicago Tribune, the Denver Post, NY Magazine, datingadvice.com, and the Irish Independent). She has more recently applied her research expertise in social psychology to better understand and find solutions for parental alienation because she has been a target of it herself. https://youtu.be/v3YdldNXZnQ
We need YOU. It is urgent that you get involved and email Governor Scott in Florida each day to tell him to Sign Alimony Bill SB 668. After passing the Senate and the House the Bill is in Jeopardy of a VETO. Change in any State Helps ALL states. Please Help us. Include in your email that “a premise = a starting point and a presumption = an ending point: Judges have full discretion”. Send as many as you can and recruit everyone to this cause. This week is the push week. If we do not top 10,000 a day we will not get his attention. Rick.Scott@eog.myflorida.com. 850-488-7146
On June 17, 2016, We will be holding a rally at both 12th Circuit Courthouses Manatee Judicial Center 1051 Manatee Ave W, Bradenton, FL 34205 and 12th Circuit Courthouse Sarasota Lynn N. Silvertooth Judicial Center 2002 Ringling Boulevard Sarasota, Florida 34237
Event outside State Capitol to remind society that there are thousands of children that are not allowed to see their fathers and that there are fit fathers being excluded from their child’s lives
We will be gathering in Downtown Indianapolis to show our solidarity in support of children’s rights to have two loving and fit parents in their lives and to bring awareness to the damage that parental alienation causes. Please join us!
Heartbreaking and unacceptable…1 out of 3 children live without biological dad and it’s not do from abandonment but a system that profits from removing children from parents lives… What is a fundamental human right- having equal access to both parents… Has become a fundamentally flawed system- the $50 billion dollar family law industry- systematically removing children from parents lives… Attend a Fathers Day Rally in your state. Your voice matters!!! ~JT – KANSAS
Heartbreaking and unacceptable…1 out of 3 children live without biological dad and it’s not do from abandonment but a system that profits from removing children from parents lives… What is a fundamental human right- having equal access to both parents… Has become a fundamentally flawed system- the $50 billion dollar family law industry- systematically removing children from parents lives… Attend a Fathers Day Rally in your state. Your voice matters!!! ~JT
We will gather to peacefully protest the unequal parenting laws in this state. — Sedgwick County Courthouse – MARYLAND
Come & stand with us and be counted for this human rights issue that destroys the very fabric of our society…Families. The family law industry is profiting from the bias treatment of parents nationwide. A fatherless society is much more likely to be from this rather than the ‘deadbeat dad” myth they want us all to keep believing. This corrupt multi billion dollar system uses people and creates negative issues for children & families. It effects us all, whether or not you even have children. The damage done is widespread and can be linked to just about every major negative social issue of our time. It’s epidemically proportioned to be a core reason for what’s wrong today with our country and worldwide. Enough is enough of this oppressive, intrusive assault on our families and Constitutional rights as citizens and parents. This scam has got to stop now. So show up now and help be involved with being a part of the solution instead of leaving it up to others… like your children. We can’t leave this for future generations of children to have live with too… Change is now. It’s our responsibility to do this for them. – We’ll see you there standing for what is right. Thank you!
Join us at the site of the “Shot heard round the world”, for the “Shout heard round the world” Fatherless Day Rally. Come out and support equal parenting, and let our voices be heard by all!
On Fathers Day 2016 many parents will go without seeing their children as they have in past years. Either because of unjust denials, or because of an unfair, unjust and highly unconstitutional Family Court System that is currently in place. A court system built on tearing families apart calling it “Best Interest for the Child” more like best interest for Courts, FOC , CPS, and DHS. As it is a profitable business for them. This is just not limited to fathers, as many mothers suffer at the hands of family court and the practices they use as well. We are in this together. So I ask that you stand against this fatherless society brought on by same court and agencies that scream “Best Interest”. This is a fact that can be prevented by just simply standing up and taking a chance at fighting for something worth fighting for. Our children need us to be their voice so they can be heard. Do you think a scorned mother or father will voice their child’s opinion if its to see their other parent, Of course not or we wouldn’t be fighting for our children in the first place. Do you think the courts will change without people demanding change? Doubt it, it has only gotten worse and more corrupt. No longer can we be idle and silent. We must rise up and demand that our children’s rights be recognized. Remind them that the role of each parent is equal. With no strings attached Shared equal parenting time with both parents is imperative to the healthy mental, physical, and emotional development of our children. Our children deserve to be heard, they deserve to have a voice, they deserve a choice. Let’s help them with that. Let’s ban together and march on the Michigan State Capital and stress the need for family court reform. WE WILL be heard and THEY WILL listen. The more we gather the louder we will get, so share this event and let’s gather everyone together and become one united voice. A voice to be heard across the nation, and start a new trend. A trend of equal parenting rights. I hope that you can join us on June 16th, 2016 on the steps of the Capital Building for a peaceful gathering of concerned parents and parent supporters. That demand equal rights to our children. Please share this with everyone in you friends list and encourage them to to share as well. For this matter is so very important to our children and their lives they still have ahead of them. Let’s help make it great. Thank you and God Bless
STOP THE WAR ON DADS! Many individuals, from many organizations, will descend upon the Missouri Capitol on this day. This is an annual rally and the greatest opportunity for face-to-face networking with individuals within our movement. Please spend the day with us and become oriented with your Capitol. An outdoor rally will take place from 9am until noon. You can make and bring signs for the entire event. Please make sure they are made for all-age, public viewing. We will then move indoors at noon, to the Capitol Rotunda, to take the stage. This is where your story can be heard. Members of the Missouri General Assembly, other special guests and our volunteer staff will be present. We’d like to share stories and personally get to know more about your individual experiences as we continue to grow as an organization and a coalition for Family Law reform. Please remember to bring food and drinks for yourselves while at the Capitol. Chairs will be provided inside the Capitol Rotunda only. Message us with any questions and/or concerns. We hope to see you there! ~jrMO
Let’s join together and improve the system, and do what is in the best interests of the child. If you want to help children, then this is where you should be. Bring your friends! **Looking to get confirmed Attendance by June 8th or the event will be cancelled. Please contact Our State Lead of Nevada by Sending us a Message
Come & stand with us and be counted for this human rights issue that destroys the very fabric of our society…Families. The family law industry is profiting from the bias treatment of parents nationwide. A fatherless society is much more likely to be from this rather than the ‘deadbeat dad” myth they want us all to keep believing. This corrupt multi billion dollar system uses people and creates negative issues for children & families. It effects us all, whether or not you even have children. The damage done is widespread and can be linked to just about every major negative social issue of our time. It’s epidemically proportioned to be a core reason for what’s wrong today with our country and worldwide. Enough is enough of this oppressive, intrusive assault on our families and Constitutional rights as citizens and parents. This scam has got to stop now. So show up now and help be involved with being a part of the solution instead of leaving it up to others… like your children. We can’t leave this for future generations of children to have live with too… Change is now. It’s our responsibility to do this for them. – We’ll see you there standing for what is right. Thank you! ~ Mike Whitney TFRM Click here to go to the event page: https://www.facebook.com/events/497630757091150/?active_tab=posts –NEW YORK
Yesterday I sent out a Meeting request to EVERY legislator in NC for the day of our rally. The meeting request responses are starting to trickle in. I will post the responses below in the comment section as we get them, as well as the meeting times. Please, All of you who can make it to the Rally, this is the First time we have held the rally while the Legislature is in session. We need a good crowd to show up so we can show them how important legislative change is to the voters of NC. Also, I will be inviting some of you to come and speak with the legislators to tell them your story, and if you can’t make it, please type your story up and send it to us. I will try to print out copies of your stories in your own words to pass out to the legislators. Thanks, Dustin~
If you are appalled by the Ohio Court Corruption and the Alienation that is occurring then come join us for the Ohio Rally. This is for everyone and all groups to join and unite with us to have a voice and a choice. We will have guest speakers, Radio Airing, Reporters, and free material as to where all the Rallies are in Ohio this year and how to get involved!! Sponsored by The Ohio Family Rights Movement.
We are hosting the annual TFRM Fatherless Day Rally to spread knowledge to our state officials and the general public about issues in our family court systems. Please come show your support for presumptive 50/50 custody for two, fit loving parents. This is a free, family-friendly event. We encourage everyone to make an appearance or stay with us the entire time. We also encourage you to invite friends, family, loved ones, co-workers, etc. to attend with you. There is strength in numbers. This is our time to let our voices be heard!
Fathers that care and extended family members are marginalized in divorce and separations in family court and in the lives of their children. The rights of our children to have equal access to both parents is also infringed upon. Now our voice will be heard. Change is coming. Stand up for yours and your children’s Constitutional and God given rights. Come stand in solidarity with us in support of Family Law Reform and Equal Parenting Rights. Bring family, friends, neighbors and co-workers. Share your stories. This is your chance to let Texas and the Nation know that enough is enough with these antiquated laws and we are on the right side of morality. Lets make history! South steps of the Texas State Capital. Visitor parking on 12th and San Jacinto– 2 blocks away. – TEXAS
In VA the standard court order includes every other weekend with one parent, normally named the non-custodial parent. The standard order does not include holidays, and even in cases where holidays are exchanged occasionally one parent is left without major holidays with their children (Such as Christmas, birthdays, etc). The non-custodial parent, normally a Father, is named a visitor in their children’s lives and restricted to 25 to 30% of yearly time with their child and then ordered to pay child support, often paying about 60% of their monthly income. Our goal is for every fit and loving parent,regardless of their gender, to be able to receive a standard court order of EQUAL custody, 50% time sharing and 50% decision making. In a world meant for equality, we still do not have equality for parents. In a census study from 1993-2014, out of 15,000 custodial parents, only less than 3,000 per year ended up being custodial Fathers. Where is the equality? Where is it stated that one gender is a better parent than the other? Why are our children suffering because the courts refuse equal time sharing? Why should the courts or a judge have the ability to pick one parent over the other, rather than have both parents equally parent the child, much like they did when conceiving the child? Will you stand up? Will you join us? Fathers, Mothers, Stepparents, Grandparents, siblings, children, Aunts, Uncles, anyone is welcome. Stand up for your children today, in case a judge refuses your right to see them tomorrow. http://www.facebook.com/events/1567598063558195/
On June 17, 2016, we will be holding a rally at the Capitol. We are calling on all fathers to place a pair of work boots or shoes on the steps of the office of their State Representative or Family Courthouse or both. This is to represent how many fathers have been reduced to a paycheck but are not allowed to be present in their children’s lives. Inside your shoes/boots place a letter telling your story. Children need both parents. We need 50/50 shared parenting. We are Fathers! We are not visitors. We are not paycheck. Make your statement heard. Make flyers, banners, posters, sign and bring your friends to support you and your children. Share and attend. #fathersrightsmovement
Join us Father’s day to promote awareness of the injustices in family court that fathers face. This rally is promoting 50-50 default placement, and equality. We are a cause united by circumstance and standing in solidarity to change current family law biases and demand a system based simply in equality. We fight for our kids. Come join us Father’s Day!
We are calling on all Fathers to place a pair of work boots or shoes on the steps of the Laramie County Courthouse. If you are unable to attend the rally please send us your story and we will place a pair of boots/shoes on your behalf. This is to represent how many fathers have been reduced to a paycheck, but are not allowed to be present in their children’s lives. Place a letter inside of your shoes/boots telling your story. Children need both parents. We need 50/50 shared parenting. We are Fathers! We are not visitors! We are not a paycheck! Make your statement heard. Make flyers, banners, posters, signs, and bring your friends and family to support you and your children. Join us on the north sidewalk of the Courthouse. Refreshments will be provided. Dress appropriately for the weather and bring sunscreen. – WYOMING
States with events but no event created: Georgia, Maine
States with events in planning: New Hampshire, Vermont
I am a family law attorney…
and I have seen first-hand the kind of unfairness that you are complaining about and I know that you are making a very legitimate point.
Every time I sit and observe for even an hour or so in family court, I come out wondering what foreign country have I wandered into. Fathers are on the bad end of some peculiar social forces and norms at this point in our culture and even understanding that it is cultural and social — and not personal — does not make it more bearable for those who are affected. I am not going to cheerlead, or defend the system. It’s wrong and it goes on and on and on.
So, what to do?
Join forces. There is an active “Fathers’ Equal Rights” community that has only started to explore its potential for political and social influence.
One voice is a rant; many voices is public policy. All judges are ultimately accountable to the public, even those that forget that is so.
Here is contact info for local state advocates in your area, support and work with them for change.
You can begin by attending your the TFRM Rally this June 17th at your State Capitol.
There simply isn’t any other or better alternative.
Find the link to your local state rally below.
You can also go to the address printed on the meme below to see if any of our current open volunteer positions interest you.
To end abuse of judicial power through intentional misapplication of the law, preventable errors, and more…
Open and transparent government is only a problem to those with something to hide. There is no way to know if a judge has 5 or 500 similar complaints. The criteria for determining probable cause to investigate a judge is confidential and inconsistently applied.
There is an over abundance of judicial corruption confirming there is a need for open government in the judiciary. Bad judges are moved around like pedophile priests leaving a trail of victims by time they are discovered.Pennsylvaniakids for cash is an example of what confidentiality of all judicial complaints enable.
One of the legal fantasies promoted by governments and officials is the idea of ‘sovereign immunity’… where they are not liable for their…Read More
One of the legal fantasies promoted by governments and officials is the idea of ‘sovereign immunity’… where they are not liable for their corrupt and illegal actions. Unfortunately this lie of ‘sovereign immunity’ is also repeated unknowingly by people who have a real case against government officials and therefore do not pursue very valid…Read More
AMERICA’S MOST FAMOUS judge has told a former Minister for Justice that Ireland should have cameras in every courtroom. Speaking to Nora Owen on TV3’s Midweek, Judge Judy said closed courtrooms protect two things – bad judges and bad lawyers. “They also protect bad institutions that serve those courts, such as social services,” she continued.…Read More
To any rational, mature, objective parent or professional, the reason for this declaration could be justified by merely pondering the following question: “How reassured would you feel if you were standing trial for a crime, and your jury was comprised entirely of 18-year-olds?”
The reason children should not be empowered to make a decision about visitation with a parent is as obvious as why no one would feel comfortable having only 18 year olds sitting in judgment of us. A child’s judgment, insight, perception, reality testing, and emotions only barely reach maturity by the END of adolescence.
One only has to read the epistemological research and studies undertaken by Jean Piaget, philosopher and developmental psychologist, who wrote the “Bible” upon which educators rely to understand the cognitive development of children.Children do not have the emotional and cognitive abilities do evaluate for themselves what is in their best interests; to theorize what it would be like to have a parent eradicated from their lives; to be able to discriminate what is rational, truthful, and moral amidst all the information their parents and other adults impart to them—especially about the malicious, fabricated, and fanciful data from the alienating parent. Children, for example, think very concretely until the age of 8; that is why they actually do believe, “Step on a crack, break my mother’s back.”
Not until much older, can they discriminate reality from fantasy, which is why they should not see horror shows until much older. The ability to think abstractly starts at the beginning of adolescence and is still insufficiently mature by 18. Children lack wisdom! And children further do not have the emotional wherewithal to contradict the alienating parent—-if that parent is the residential parent—-as they are so dependent upon that parent.
So to placate the alienated parent regarding the visit refusal, the court sanctions it by making an ineffective order for the child to undergo a course of individual therapy in the hopes of readying the child for a relationship with the alienated parent. Every time I hear the unsubstantiated platitude for the therapist, “to prepare the child for contact with the alienated parent,” I want to erupt.
Because of their immature cognitive and emotional abilities as previously discussed, children do not possess the facility for abstraction. They cannot participate in a theoretical discussion about what an appropriate relationship entails; nor can they comprehend a desire for something in the abstraction. A child, therefore, cannot have a discussion about desiring a relationship with someone who is in the absentia—-especially a brainwashed child; nor can a child participate in determining what to expect from the relationship with that “someone.”
That “someone” needs to be concrete, in person, in the flesh and blood. The therapist cannot, therefore, prepare the child through intellectualism and abstraction for the re-building of a relationship with someone else. To be able to do this is a fantasy perpetuated by an adversarial child custody system in order to appease the parties and deceive one another into believing that the alienation is being addressed. Individual therapy will not be able to resolve this. To do is also a fantasy perpetuated by the mental health community—-partially out of ignorance, partially out of an opposing belief system from this therapist’s about the power of the therapist and about how people change, and partially to assure our continued employment. I have lost count of the number of preposterous requests I have received asking me to treat a child whom I have never met in order “to ready them to reunite” with a parent, whom I have also never met and know nothing about. I am being asked to treat a relationship without having observed and examined it!
Would a doctor diagnose for a disease without observing/examining the patient?
But why is therapy necessary at all to connect a child to a loving and formally loved parent? The PAS-aware professional must educate the judicial system that PAS children’s expressed hatred for and refusal to visit with the targeted/alienated parent are not their true feelings—-no more than these were the feelings of the thousands of foster children with whom I had worked with during a period of 24 years: not a single foster child ever expressed a hatred for her/his parents or a refusal to visit. Indeed, the two most frequently asked questions were, “When can I go home?” and “When is my next visit with my mommy and daddy?” You have to be carefully taught to hate and fear—-especially a parent.
PAS children are caught and trapped by their feelings and position: on the one hand, these children love and crave their relationship with their targeted/alienated parent; on the other hand, they are terrified of betraying their alienating parent by expressing their true feelings.
The professionals which impact child custody—-especially the judge—-must release these children from their trap by relieving them from making the decision about whether to visit or not.
The professionals who impact child custody and visitation must assume the responsibilities for which we were charged when we were licensed by our respective professions; that is, we must assume our responsibility of guaranteeing the PAS child’s right to a meaningful relationship with both parents—-that starts with the enforcement of the visitation rights of the non-residential parent.
Linda J. Kase Gottlieb has teamed up with an attorney and certified mediator to offer low cost divorce mediation services as well as low cost services to pro se alienated parents who will need help with confronting their situation.
Naturally, Linda will be supporting joint legal custody with 50/50 physical custody when both parents are fit. …See More
Recently published book, The Parental Alienation Syndrome: A Family Therapy and Collaborative Systems Approach to Amelioration
The PAS-aware professional must educate the judicial system that PAS children’s expressed hatred for and refusal to visit with the targeted/alienated parent are not their true feelings.
We’re just inviting you to take a timeout into the rhythmic ambiance of our breakfast, brunch and/or coffee selections. We are happy whenever you stop by.
To any rational, mature, objective 
PAS children are caught and trapped by their feelings and position: on the one hand, these children love and crave their relationship with their targeted/alienated parent; on the other hand, they are terrified of betraying their alienating parent by expressing their true feelings.
Americans for Equal Rights for Fathers 