Rise in cases of children poisoned against one parent by the other

Programme aims to help people affected by ‘parental alienation’

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Parental alienation – a phenomenon where one parent poisons their child against the other parent – has become such a feature of the most difficult family breakdowns that Cafcass, the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service, is to offer targeted support for those affected following a government-funded intensive therapeutic pilot programme .

Distinct from the all-too-common acrimony between divorcing parents, the syndrome is an internationally recognised phenomenon. In America and Canada, “parenting coordinators” are ordered and supervised by the courts to help restore relationships between parents and children identified as “alienated”. In Mexico and Brazil, alienating a child from a parent is a criminal act.

Psychiatrist Richard Gardner developed the concept 20 years ago, defining it as “a disorder that arises primarily in the context of child custody disputes. Its primary manifestation is the child’s campaign of denigration against a parent, a campaign that has no justification. It results from the combination of a programming (brainwashing) parent’s indoctrination and the child’s own contributions to the vilification of the target parent.”

Crucial to a child’s well being…just as a mother.

Barbara Kay: Don’t sell fathers short: They are as crucial to a child’s well being as a mother | National Post

For a recent web edition of The Walrus magazine, editor-in-chief Jonathan Kay wrote a sympathetic (but not sycophantic) reflection on Justin Trudeau, with whom he spent considerable time in his role as editorial assistant for Trudeau’s 2014 memoir, Common Ground.

“The Trudeau I Know,” reproduced in Monday’s National Post print edition, dwells on the trials of Justin’s youth associated with his parents’ breakup, and his mother Margaret’s subsequently erratic presence in his life. Long after other issues he discussed with Justin had faded from memory, what lingered for Jon were “the stories from his childhood.”

He writes: “It’s one thing for daddy to leave. That happens all the time, sadly. But when mommy walks out, that’s something very different. We are conditioned to think of a mother’s love as the one unshakable emotional pillar of a child’s life. When that pillar folds up and walks out the front door, how do you keep that roof from collapsing?”

I suppose I should feel flattered by Jon’s reverence for mothers, since I am his mother. But I don’t. What Jon admits he has been culturally “conditioned” to believe is a myth it is long past time to retire, especially by family courts whose judges, similarly “conditioned,” skew reflexively motherward in custody battles.

I know Jon meant no disrespect to his own devoted father; he was simply channeling our “feeling” culture’s received wisdom that mothers are the indispensable parent, with fathers cast as inessential, but (with the correct attitude and behaviour) valuable aides-de-camp.

In reality, it is a well-documented truth that the often more overt emotional connection between mother and child is only one pillar holding up the solid roof over children’s healthy growth. Fathers are just as important to their children as mothers, even when they do not conform to sensitive New Man standards.

We are hosting the annual TFRM Fatherless Day Rally to spread knowledge to our state officials and the general public about issues in our family court systems. Please come show your support for presumptive 50/50 custody for two, fit loving parents. This is a free, family-friendly event. We encourage everyone to make an appearance or stay with us the entire time. We also encourage you to invite friends, family, loved ones, co-workers, etc. to attend with you. There is strength in numbers. This is our time to let our voices be heard!

Dad Deprivation Eroding Modern Society

How ‘dad deprivation’ could be eroding modern society

One of the world’s most respected campaigners on men’s issues believes “dad deprivation” is directly causing what he’s termed “the boy crisis” – and unless society urgently intervenes, we will be in danger of writing off a generation of men.

This Saturday, Warren Farrell – pioneering men’s activist, author of The Myth Of Male Power and a mentor who once coached John Lennon – will give a hugely-anticipated keynote speech at Male Psychology Conference in London.

Dad-deprived boys are less likely to display empathy, be less assertive, depressed, have nightmares, talk back and be disobedientWarren Farrell

Farrell believes modern society is being tangibly eroded by dad deprivation – through increased relationship breakdown, family courts that favour mothers, and fathers denied access to their children after a separation.

He points out that in in every one of the largest 70 developed nations, boys have fallen behind girls, and what they have in common, Farrell says, is divorce. 

“Dad-deprived boys are less likely to display empathy, be less assertive, depressed, have nightmares, talk back and be disobedient,” says Farrell, 72.

“At age nine, girls and boys commit suicide in equal numbers, but boys are twice as likely aged 14, four times more likely aged 15-19, and five times more by age 20-25. This is the time when dads drift out of their lives”.

Some of Farrell’s proposed solutions are radical, such as increasing the numbers of male teachers in schools – by state legislation if necessary.

“We need a major overhaul of education system, especially in inner cities where we know dad deprivation is higher,” he says.

“These boys have no positive male role models. That makes them vulnerable to strong, destructive alpha males like gang leaders or drug dealers.”

“These boys are also most likely to be brought up by mums, then move from a mother-centered home to a woman-centered school.

“Boys need to see males caring at every stage of their lives. So we need more male teachers, period. I’d say equal amounts at least, although, in areas where there are 70 per cent single mothers, why not have 70 per cent male teachers?

“We need to encourage men into the caring sectors, to challenge the cliché that caring work is women’s work”.

Farrell also urges dads not to willingly abandon their children, which he sees as a dereliction of duty.

“Men should not withdraw like cowards,” he says. “To an eight-year-old boy, their dad is God. Backing off or abandoning them leaves the child feeling not important. Dads must fight to be a part of their children’s lives, especially if the mother blocks that”.

Here, Farrell urges separating parents to park their own differences.

Boys need to see males caring at every stage of their lives. So we need more male teachers, period. I’d say equal amounts at least ~ Warren Farrell

“Allowing dads in helps both the boy and the mother, as the child will be easier to manage for her as sole carer,” he says. “Data shows divorced mums are five times more likely to bad mouth dads than dads do mums.

How Many Children Won’t Be With Dad?

As Father’s Day 2016 approaches, it’s time to take stock of how many children won’t experience the joy of giving their dad a gift and the smile, hug and kiss that follows.

More than 24 million children, 1 in 3, grow up without their biological father. That’s enough children to populate New York City nearly three times.

Perhaps you wonder whether the number is still bleak when considering that so many children today live in blended or adoptive families. It’s still bleak. More than 20 million children, slightly more than 1 in 4, grow up without a biological, step or adoptive father. 

Nevertheless, there is some good news in the battle against father absence as reflected in the chart below.

Percentage of Children Living in Father-Absent Homes: 1960 – 2014

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the percentage of children in the U.S. living without a dad began to soar in 1960. It rose unabated until 1995 when it suddenly hit the skids—sort of. For every five-year period from 1960 to 1995, the percentage rose. Since then, it has fallen and risen like clockwork. The result is a hold-steady pattern of 27.5 percent.

JUSTICE4CHILDREN ~ Human Rights, Justice, Civil Rights.

The BEST Parent is BOTH Parents

Keeping Parents and Children Together – Human Rights, Justice, Civil Rights

Fatherless Father’s Day ~ A fight for equal parental rights

The couple sent a letter to President Barack Obama on Aug. 12, 2011, detailing 23 adjustments they wanted for CPS. Some requests included ending bonuses paid to each CPS worker for a child … 

Last testament of a loving father abused by the family court system and alienated from his children

Originally posted on Women for Men: This August our 11-year-old son will begin the sixth grade at Chaminade Preparatory School in St. Louis, MO. It is an all boys Catholic school. Chris Mack… 

Whores of the Court

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Your Raising a Human Being NOT an Inconvenience

Parental Alienation deprives children of their right to be loved by and showing love for both of their parents!!

If a father withholds the access of a mother to her children, he can be arrested and charged with Child abduction and Kidnap. When a mother does the same against the father of the children, there are NO laws to stop her from doing this. As a result, many good fathers suffer depression, anxiety and emotional stress that can lead to loss of work, self harming and even suicide. In short, it has a devastating effect on us all.

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Children NEED and deserve to have BOTH parents in their lives, the balance needs to be equal. Fathers should not be punished and branded and made to feel inadequate because a relationship with their former partner has deteriorated.

We are hosting the annual TFRM Fatherless Day Rally to spread knowledge to our state officials and the general public about issues in our family court systems. Please come show your support for presumptive 50/50 custody for two, fit loving parents. This is a free, family-friendly event. We encourage everyone to make an appearance or stay with us the entire time. We also encourage you to invite friends, family, loved ones, co-workers, etc. to attend with you. There is strength in numbers. This is our time to let our voices be heard!

We are honest fathers, not drunks, drug users, nor ‘deadbeat’. All we want is to share in the upbringing of our children, be part of their lives, and have it enforced when our children are held against us as if for ransom.

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Civil Rights in Family Law Florida

Dearest Daughter,

I love you so much. 

Yesterday I gazed out the window watching fireworks and was really missing my angel but I cannot call her because I am scared of mom’s false allegations and lies, she  doesn’t call me and knowing she is only a couple of mile away hurts like hell.

Please know that daddy, your brother, your grandparents, your cousins, aunts and uncles; your whole family loves you and misses you very much.

I tried to get to see you but your mom told the Judge, in family court on April 24th, 2013, that “it’s too inconvenient for her to take you to visit with me”.
I love you!

What can be worse than that?

In 2013, Judge Manno-Schurr agreed with mom. In my opinion this is Parental Alienation by Mom facilitated by the Family Court.Judge granted Mom’s Motion to Strike the Amicus Brief filed by Dad that explains to the…

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Fatherless

Positive ambassadors for involved fatherhood, at-home dads need to resist the urge to take offense and instead use these thoughtless comments as “teaching moments.” In this way, they can be more effective and positive as they change the out-of-date attitudes of those around them. I came up with a phrase for this very purpose:

“Almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad”

Here we are starting another year in the same position as last year and the year before that and the year before that. Three years now since I saw my two children and three more to go if the situation remains the same. My son Scott will be sixteen in three years time and he will instantly have the freedom to choose to find me. Which is why I keep my blog running. I have said this over and over again during the last three years, all we want is equality. Not too much to ask in 2014. A fathers right to see his children and a child’s right to see his or her father. Men are often accused of being controlling, but when a mother denies a father access to his children and a child access to his or father then that is the extreme of controlling behavior. But that seems to go unrecognised. Balanced? I don’t think so. Fair? I don’t think so. Equal? I don’t think so. Children are not tools to be used as a punishment against a father.

As in:
“I loved that movie from 1983, too (“Mr. Mom”), but that’s not what most dads or at-home dads do today. In fact, almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad.“

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“I know you mean no offense, but I don’t babysit my kids, I’m just being their father. And, you know, almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad.”

“Almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad. I just happen to do it full-time, as it made more sense for my family that my wife works. All families should arrange things the best way for them, don’t you think?”

“I’m here with my kids. More and more dads are doing things like this. After all, almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad. Which are your kids, maybe they can join mine on the monkey bars?”

“I know you mean that (“great dad”) as a compliment, and thank you. But, you know, almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad. I’m not doing anything more than most dads- or moms- do.”

Progress can come one conversation at a time.

I’m very confident that the awesome guys I met at the convention will more than do their part. Honestly, I’m not sure I could restrain the urge to say something rude if faced with such thoughtless comments. But rising above thoughtlessness is the key to being a positive ambassador.

The dads at this convention seemed to like the phrase and, in fact, a few told me they used some variant of it during their flights back home when fellow passengers saw them wearing their “At-Home Dad Convention” and “Dads Don’t Babysit” t-shirts.

My experience at this convention also led me to think about working dads, and what we can do to be ambassadors of involved fatherhood at our workplaces. Here are a few ideas:

Talk about family while at work and make it easier for others in your sphere of influence to do so. For instance, ask them about what they did with their families on weekends, or have family pictures prominently displayed at your workstation.

Gather a group of fellow working dads and go out to lunch or a happy-hour together every few weeks. Combine this with a mom’s group if you’d like.
When you need to, leave early and take work home. Don’t apologize for it. Your continued work performance will win over initial skeptics.

Ask management and HR about what policies they offer. Share with them the news of what leading companies offer.

Take paternity leave when it’s offered. Be visible about it. Share your experiences on social media.

Especially if you are a manager, you play an especially important role. If your employees see you adjust your schedule for family, occasionally work from home, and even take paternity leave, you send a strong signal that it is ok for others to do so. Your actions speak much louder than your words.

Push the need for leave and flexibility policies with HR and top management. Make the business case in terms of attracting and retaining employees, as well as improving engagement.

Beyond paternity leave or workplace flexibility, talk with your employees, coworkers and bosses about the importance of time for life.

After all, almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad.

Whether we work outside the home or have made parenting our full-time job, we need to be ambassadors for involved fatherhood. That’s how society and workplaces will finally catch on to what most of us do every day.

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Civil Rights in Family Law Florida

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Changing the outcome of your family court case!

WHY MEN LOSE IN FAMILY COURT

Dear Friend and Fellow Advocate,

Thanks for visiting our site! Like most individuals you have probably come to our site for one primary reason. You are looking for answers to a specific Fathers rights family law problem. Let me assure you that you’ve come to the right place. We have the answers you need!

The subject of this article is “Why Do Men Lose In Family Court?” I have spent the last 23 years attempting to answer this question. After considerable research, case evaluations and client interviews I believe I now have the answer.

 

Twenty three years ago I went through a brutal divorce. Actually, at the time of divorce we were very friendly with one another and agreed to settle out of court. My Ex-wife, through a paralegal filed for divorce and like most men I simply agreed to the terms. I walked away with nothing! I surrendered the house, ($40,000.00 in equity) the boat, the car, furniture etc. etc…Everything I had acquired in 13 years of marriage was suddenly gone. We had three children and I wanted them to have the benefit of these items. Although I didn’t realize it at the time I could have and should have made better agreements that would have benefited all members of my family in a much greater way.

Looking back I simply didn’t know what a good agreement was or how to make the deal. I was so concerned about maintaining a good relationship with my ex that I avoided anything that might have resulted in a legal battle. I should have filed my response with the court and requested an equitable division of property, custody, visitation and a support order that was based on my Real income. In general I should have been more attentive to the legal issues. This was truly a mistake!

Hello Male Parents

Hello Male Parents,

I wish you well and hope you know that your not at all alone.

Life can give us skills whether we want them or not.

In time, every father facing custody and court cases involving family law will develop a ‘thicker skin’ as we all know that nothing is more personal then an attack against your human rights, your rights as a parent and your ability to parent a child.

I would like to express a very important concept today.

This is extremely bold and progressive. I believe their is no ‘movements’ in the world today to change the opinion of culture in the way that will actually build up momentum.

I would like to give you an example*…

“Equality for homosexual relationships in the USA have become popular.
Single Male parents seeking Equality in Custody and Family law is NOT.”

*The example is not aimed to defame or harm homosexual couples in any way, simply a random example.

Who do you believe will be the first to win Public approval in the equality of raising children?

A large portion of Society will back gay rights to have two males or two females raise a child… Will Society recognize the human rights of a Male parent to have ABSOLUTE EQUALITY in custody decisions or family court?

The reason behind this is because Gay rights do not threaten the power of women as much as the concept of  ‘ MAN VS WOMAN ‘

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Trump VP…Newt Gingrich?

Sean Hannity Answers Leon Koziol on Trump VP: Newt Gingrich | Leon Koziol.Com

As a civil rights advocate, Dr. Koziol has been invited to a family promotion event at the United Nations on Monday. Today he is meeting with father advocates in the New York Metropolitan area regarding a rally on June 10 in New York Supreme Court.

Recently that court signed an order directing a family court judge to answer a mandamus action brought by Leon challenging a gag order placed on this site in November. The lawsuit seeks removal of the judge and an end to discrimination and parent alienation. Arguments at the Oneida County Courthouse in Utica are open to the public.

Leon is seeking funding for a shared parenting initiative nationwide. It is important to join this cause if we are ever going to secure long overdue reforms for the sake of families and our children. He has been working with the Trump campaign because his Democrat opponent has been the cause for lucrative and needless parental conflict in divorce and family courts. The fundraising gala here was to promote cutting edge medical breakthroughs which save people from addictions and costly health programs. Our initiative is similar regarding the legal profession. However we remain non funded to date. Call our office at (315) 380-3420 or Leon direct at (315) 796-4000.

Newt Gingrich at a political conference in Orlando, Florida. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

New York City, May 15, 2016

Well you heard it today on Fox News Sunday with Chris Wallace, but the question was posed by Leon Koziol publicly the night before at a fundraising gala in Manhattan. After thrilling attendees with politics and his enthusiasm for Donald Trump, keynote speaker Sean Hannity boldly opened himself up to questions. Leon stepped forward and put him on the spot.

“Who should be Trump’s VP and why not you?”

Sean quickly reacted,

“not me, but I can tell you who I think it should be: Newt Gingrich.”